90 Days...Seriously?

During our "Plan" I never thought about what would happen if in the even I find a new job. This was a terrible mistake on my end. As August was ending and pregnancy near I'm realizing that my job is driving me nuts and I have to leave. This was definitely the hardest job hunt ever! I told my boyfriend that if I did not find a new gig by the end of September I was just going to stick it out until the end of the pregnancy. During my job hunt I did not tell anyone I was prego, one it was way to soon and two it was none of their business.

Finally, the last week in September I signed on to my new gig and broke the news to my bosses -- both pregnancy and departure date. Instead of finishing out my two weeks I decided to work one week and take my last vacation week. At the time it seemed like a super idea until my first doctor's appointment came around. It just so happens that the my first appointment was on the last day of my employment which was the biggest headache ever, but I managed to get through it. Not knowing the worst was yet to come!

When I spoke with my soon-to-be new boss one of my main questions were when does my insurance kick in. I'm so sure she said 30 days that I didn't bother to inquire any further at that time. I figured I had my first doctor's visit and wouldn't need another for a while and I could just push my next appointment into the following month. Please keep in mind my start date was the first week in October. While filling out my benefits info something told me to call the company to verify my insurance active date...DEC1!!! I was hysterical sitting at my desk in disbelief thinking what the heck I am going to do for 90 days? 

My advice on New Jobs and Benefits...

DOUBLE CHECK WITH THE HR DEPARTMENT BEFORE START DATE!!!

Wrap up question

Does the date your benefits kick in determine whether you take a job or not?

~BKMommy2Be

I love being Pregnant...at this Point!

At only 18 weeks pregnant I may complain and bitch but I really do enjoy the motions of being pregnant! It is one of the most amazing thing a woman can do. Every time I take a moment out of my day to think about my baby growing inside of me just sends chills up my spine. It is so true when women say they never thought they could love someone so much!

I just can't wait to meet him/her so I can give all the love that I can possibly give. Oddly enough I am actually looking forward to the not only the good but the bad times that come with raising a child. In my world you're only as strong as your last challenge and this will be a great challenge!

I would also like to acknowledge the fact that my family, friends, and boyfriend all have been so supportive, helpful, and understanding. I couldn't ask for a better support group!!!

To all the new moms congratulations and soon to be moms good luck, and to the moms that raised kids or still raising keep up the good work!

~BK Mommy2Be

The Plan...

Last October '09, my boyfriend and I decided to plan when we will start “working” on having a baby. The real story though…He was turning 30 and the “I’m getting old and need kids” bug was hitting him hard! I’m sure he even said, maybe on more than one occasion, that he feels left out because all of his friends have children and he doesn’t. *Side eye*

Compromise... That said, I was only turning 26 that year, and had JUST landed a new job, that at the time I thought was promising. During our baby talk I made an agreement… I was though a little hesitant, but I eventually gave in and asked him to give me a year so I can settle in at this new job and let the maternity leave kick in. Deal!

I’m quite positive my friends thought I was nuts for trying to plan my pregnancy. They believe you can’t plan everything, especially pregnancy! I disagree, because I did, and I’m sure many other couples did as well. Granted it happened 2 months earlier than proposed, it was still planned.

Fast forward to August '10, I think my boyfriend and I had a conversation about being ready and we should just get the show on the road. So I began researching different sites about what to do when trying to get pregnant and decided to stop drinking (socially of course) for a few weeks and lay off the sushi. I also checked out an ovulation calculator on http://www.babycenter.com/ and boy was it accurate!!! You will be ovulating between Aug22-Aug27 the site spit out. So we got it poppin everyday that week!

My advice on effective “baby making” planning, if that is what you want to do...

·         Communicate- talking with your significant other and come to a conclusion as to when would be the appropriate time.

·         Research- read a couple of different pregnancy sites and decide which method will work best for you. Try the ovulation calculator!!! If you keep track of period this should work.

Wrap up question

 Just because you plan on having a baby, are you really ever ready? Can you expect what is to come?

~BK Mommy2Be