It's a Girl!!!

Dec 30, 2010 took forever to arrive!!! I tried to schedule my doctor’s appointment on my birthday, Dec10, but of course all plans don’t always work in your favor. This was the first time my boyfriend was coming with me to a doctor’s visit…unfortunately I did not give him the heads up about the poor customer service or the extended wait time.

My appointment was at 10am, and yes we were on time. I registered and we found a seat and sat for a good 2 ½ hours before being called. He was restless; I was hungry and close to becoming very pissed. I went to ask the lady sitting at the desk what the holdup was and she tells me there are only two sonogram doctors so they are a bit backed up but she will go see where I am on the list. She must have been gone for maybe 10-15min only to come back to tell me “I May Be Next”…Ummm what the heck does that mean?

Finally the doctor called my name and my boyfriend and I were happy again, only for a second. I don’t know how everyone else operated but I like for my doctors to introduce themselves and build a friendly rapport with me. This doctor in particular did none of the above! After calling my name she said follow me and walked us to the room. We get to the room and she instructs me to use the restroom. As soon as I walked out she directs me to the table and to pull my pants down a bit (sheesh still no introduction) and she slapped my belly with the grease. She didn’t even wait for my boyfriend to come out the bathroom she just went to work. Then when he tried to stand in front of me to look at the screen she says, “Step back and sit down this is going to be a while!”

He’s the father so umm why can he not look. We already been here for over two hours, we know this is going to be long. She did not crack a smile, nothing. I finally asked, “Doc, what’s going on down there?”

She replied, “I’m taking pictured of every body part, but everything looks good. Would you like to know the sex of the baby?”

“Ummm Yes, please,” I replied.

“It looks like a girl,” she says (this means that there is a 5% chance this could be a boy).

My boyfriend was floored. I really wanted a girl and he really wanted a boy, but none the less he was and is super happy for the healthy results for our baby girl, Alissa Rai. This is one of the best moments of my life, what a blessing! I couldn’t ask for more.

My thoughts on doctor visits...

• If it matters to you make sure your doctor is friendly, welcoming, and nice if possible.

Wrap up question

How was your experience when you found out the sex of you baby (s)?

~BK Mommy2Be

90 Days...Seriously?

During our "Plan" I never thought about what would happen if in the even I find a new job. This was a terrible mistake on my end. As August was ending and pregnancy near I'm realizing that my job is driving me nuts and I have to leave. This was definitely the hardest job hunt ever! I told my boyfriend that if I did not find a new gig by the end of September I was just going to stick it out until the end of the pregnancy. During my job hunt I did not tell anyone I was prego, one it was way to soon and two it was none of their business.

Finally, the last week in September I signed on to my new gig and broke the news to my bosses -- both pregnancy and departure date. Instead of finishing out my two weeks I decided to work one week and take my last vacation week. At the time it seemed like a super idea until my first doctor's appointment came around. It just so happens that the my first appointment was on the last day of my employment which was the biggest headache ever, but I managed to get through it. Not knowing the worst was yet to come!

When I spoke with my soon-to-be new boss one of my main questions were when does my insurance kick in. I'm so sure she said 30 days that I didn't bother to inquire any further at that time. I figured I had my first doctor's visit and wouldn't need another for a while and I could just push my next appointment into the following month. Please keep in mind my start date was the first week in October. While filling out my benefits info something told me to call the company to verify my insurance active date...DEC1!!! I was hysterical sitting at my desk in disbelief thinking what the heck I am going to do for 90 days? 

My advice on New Jobs and Benefits...

DOUBLE CHECK WITH THE HR DEPARTMENT BEFORE START DATE!!!

Wrap up question

Does the date your benefits kick in determine whether you take a job or not?

~BKMommy2Be